It’s funny how some of us resist changing our disposition for other people, but the moment they leave our lives we realize they were right and positively worth it. Then we decide to change, only that your moments together are now just memories, some good and some remain bitter. Then we say, maybe next time, I would do this and not do that but then some forget their lessons and fall back into the cycle..
Bapi Rivera for this kind of people, we therefore exert less and expect less. They probably hasn’t found their ground yet, has not let go of the remnants of their past or they just hold on to their ego too much to work things out.
Our course of action is to detach from them, remain open to possibilities and choose someone whom we don’t have to give 80% into the relationship while the other sits idly with just 20%.
We deserve nothing less and nobody but the best. Matud pang Virna “Kanang pinangga ta, kay Mamita ra ba ta!”.
Mae Ann, best doesn’t exactly mean perfect. If I may borrow my married guy friend’s thoughts, it’s someone who would reciprocate your efforts and love without being asked, someone who makes you feel you’re a better person and would bring out your best when you’re with them but would also stand by your side when at times you’re at your worst.
And when we find this kind of person, maybe a friend or more than that, we treasure them. We give them our best as well, as long as we put the boundary between selflessness and self-respect. Giving our 90% to them gives a return of a 190 % but everything feels effortless. This cycle is the one we would like to fall into.
We deserve the best and they deserve our best as well.
I should learn these too ;)
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